I’m Deirdre Arato, a trauma therapist and founder of the YOU TOO Movement, and I’d like to offer a compelling and under-reported issue on men.

The Deadly Silence of Men Who Experience Domestic Violence, Workplace Sexual Harassment, and Discrimination — and Why They Rarely Report It.

While the Me Too movement fundamentally shifted cultural awareness of abuse and harassment, there remains a significant population whose pain has been largely ignored: men who experience abuse and are too often believed to be the aggressors when they try to speak up. This silence is costing lives.

Why This Matters Now

In my clinical practice and through the YOU TOO Movement, I’ve witnessed a growing wave of male survivors whose mental health has deteriorated not from isolated incidents, but from years of silence, stigma, and systemic dismissal. Many:

• Experience severe domestic violence behind closed doors

• Suffer sexual harassment or discrimination in the workplace

• Fear reporting because of shame, disbelief, retaliation, or being labeled the aggressor

• Are dismissed or punished by systems meant to protect victims

The result? A quiet but devastating crisis of trauma, anxiety, depression, substance use, emotional withdrawal, and lost sense of self that rarely makes headlines — until now.